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| Dan Jacobs |
Posted - 18/04/2012 : 17:52:38
So... I've had my first enquiry in what seems like forever.
The student has been having lessons at school but has decided to be taught from home instead. They are 15.7 miles from me but the bus (50 mins each way) only goes slightly over half way, so i think i'll have to decline the work :(
Unless anyone can think of a way?
I need work desperately as i currently have to go to 'job club' weekly and it's helping 0% having to act out ridiculous roleplay rubbish, Apparently i'm the 'Ross' of the group, for those League of Gentleman fans out there.
My younger brother Rowan is jumping up and down asking for help to buy a drum kit for his college course, if he gets in, but i cannot really help him at all - it's been 20 months since i had a kit which also doesn't help.
On a slightly different note, to keep myself busy over the last three weeks, i've been writing a fiction novel, just over 58000 words so far, if anyone would like to have a read to help with gramatical errors - i'd really appreciate it.
Lastly, I'm thinking of moving away as it's been so long without work I don't feel like i have a life, i'm barely existing and cannot even pay the bills that come in, and i'm not one for wasting money at all. Nobody will visit me as it's always freezing, yet my electric bill is huge. Anyway, perhaps there's somewhere in the UK where i would find students? or work in a school? what are your thoughts?
Sorry for all the questions, just thinking aloud really
DJ
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| JKDrummerDude |
Posted - 01/05/2012 : 09:29:38
If you're going to Agencies for jobs, then you have to talk to them early in the morning every morning. I used to have a list of numbers by the phone, got up at 7:00am and called each one. I managed to get work within three days that way. It was rubbish work, factory, minimum wage, but some cash is better than no cash.
You can't give up no matter how soul destroying it gets, you just have to try harder. There is a lot of competition for jobs, but a lot of it will not gt out of bed in the morning, so you can usually get the jump on them. |
| mully |
Posted - 30/04/2012 : 22:41:28
quote:
Originally posted by Dan Jacobs
Suggestions welcome
One more time....
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Originally posted by Yard
You will find that it pays to visit and enquire about jobs than sending applications.
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Originally posted by mully
Absolutely. Go into stores, cafes, bars, shops or whatever and ASK IN PERSON to see the manager or owner. If they're not available, make an appointment to see them. I lost count of the number of schools and music schools I went to when I was trying to get a teaching gig, but eventually one said ok, we'll give you a try.
Originally posted by drumbum
Leave the house at 8.00am every day and ask anywhere and everywhere for a job.
Stephen |
| Dan Jacobs |
Posted - 30/04/2012 : 22:03:45
quote:
Originally posted by anuntutoredyouth
Have you had any practical advice for job hunting other than just the get on your bike suggestions?
I.e. has anyone looked at your cv/ cover letter for you? If someone has, then get someone else to as its not working in current form, perhaps? Have you looked at temping agencies for work to tide you over? Ice had periods without work and made sure I kept exercising and finding things to do - even unpaid work looks good on a cv. Totally understand how such worries lead to dark times. The job I now have is the one I least expected to get. I hope that serves as a positive to see that stuff is there. Just like Tom Petty says...."the waiting is the hardest part"!
Jim,
The last day long session at the 'Job Club' I have to attend gave us the following advice.
1. When shopping, eavesdrop around the staff to find out if they are talking about firing/hiring.
2. The problem of 'too many people applying for each job' is b0ll0cks.
3. Perhaps walk around town with a billboard saying 'I need a job!'.
I have split my CV into 5 for Shipping, Admin, Driving, Drumming and then a general one that's skills based, all have been double checked and approved.
I've delivered 1,000 A5 glossy double sided flyers offering drum tuition to large detached houses in the area and in the last two weeks I've written to almost 200 schools with covering letter, CV and poster.
I've applied for jobs as cleaner, car cleaner/litter picker, loads of admin jobs, I've joined agencies who said they had work and once the forms were filled in they said they hadn't etc etc
The bottom line is that I have decided I will definitely be moving within the next few months, although not sure how with no money, I just need to decide where to. Perhaps somewhere where I'd have more of a chance of finding students, but mainly somewhere where I'd have a chance of finding paid work.
Suggestions welcome |
| Captain Bubble |
Posted - 23/04/2012 : 14:06:37
quote:
Originally posted by MarkMooch
quote:
Originally posted by Captain Bubble
I used my bike as my only regular transport when I was out of work and wanted to develop and produce a new invention; carrying stuff for my business on my bike I built up The World's Biggest and Best Timpani, Drum and Percussion Factory In The Whole Of South Bermondsey (Probably)! 
Are you still in South Bermondsey Cap'n? I record at a studio in the Biscuit Factory units and have had a pint or two and a jam with the old guys at the Sport Cafe!
Been here over 15 years and don't plan to move. Do mean the old Peek Freans one just off St James's Rd, I am at the other end of it; if you want to call in send me a PM! |
| WendyB |
Posted - 23/04/2012 : 13:51:35
As an aside but related, did anyone else see Friday's Tonight programme? Interviewing folks in Telford, where unemployment stands at 9%, nobody interviewed who was unemployed wanted to work for a local copier company who was struggling to recruit - over 100 people were approached in a couple of hours. The company desperately wants to expand but can't get the staff. The main reason given was that benefit is so high it just isn't worth working, and that one company was not alone in its desire to recruit but finding the unemployed to be sadly lacking in even the most basic workplace skills. |
| anuntutoredyouth |
Posted - 21/04/2012 : 09:27:37
Have you had any practical advice for job hunting other than just the get on your bike suggestions?
I.e. has anyone looked at your cv/ cover letter for you? If someone has, then get someone else to as its not working in current form, perhaps? Have you looked at temping agencies for work to tide you over? Ice had periods without work and made sure I kept exercising and finding things to do - even unpaid work looks good on a cv. Totally understand how such worries lead to dark times. The job I now have is the one I least expected to get. I hope that serves as a positive to see that stuff is there. Just like Tom Petty says...."the waiting is the hardest part"! |
| drumting |
Posted - 20/04/2012 : 08:42:08
Dan, I was going to post last night, but thought better of it.
I'm not clear on what you're hoping to achieve by posting on this (or any) forum?
Have you considered what the parent of the prospective student, or the student themselves might think after reading your post?
Don't want to be too harsh, as you're clearly not in a great place, but maybe think about your priorities.
As much as I love drums, and it's what pays my way, my attitude is always life first, drums second.
Get your life back in shape first, then worry about the drums when you have a more solid foundation. Maybe check out Maslow's hierarchy of needs, and compare it with your situation.
Best of luck with it all. |
| MarkMooch |
Posted - 20/04/2012 : 01:31:14
quote:
Originally posted by Captain Bubble
I used my bike as my only regular transport when I was out of work and wanted to develop and produce a new invention; carrying stuff for my business on my bike I built up The World's Biggest and Best Timpani, Drum and Percussion Factory In The Whole Of South Bermondsey (Probably)!
Are you still in South Bermondsey Cap'n? I record at a studio in the Biscuit Factory units and have had a pint or two and a jam with the old guys at the Sport Cafe! |
| Drumbum |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 19:48:15
Hi drumcrew. I live in Merseyside, In the bottom 20% of deprived areas in the country. I came out of work and soon after my wife lost her job. We have 6 children. I did exactly the same as i have advised Dan to do.
Without sounding harsh, some people need to get of their arse, stop feeling sorry for themselves, give up their dream of having the ideal job doing what they love (temporarily), and find a job. Although times are very hard atm, there are jobs out there.
Get on with it. If you are single or without children the world is your oyster and you are not held to one area or way of life. |
| Dan Jacobs |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 19:24:51
I'll move anywhere, where i can find a job that pays enough to cover rent/bills |
| ian-40 |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 18:41:37
move to grantham Dan. jobs galore where i work, expanding at an alarming rate |
| thedrumcrew |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 18:09:48
Dan as put
I can't even get an interview for cleaning. I've written to all the major supermarkets asking about shelf filling, I'd love to do that as it would fill my time and I could sign off the dole and stop going to job club.
What ever some on here say there are not loads of jobs and i am sorry but going out at 8 for 2 weeks around here i still do think you would get a job that pays the going rate for a flat.
This is where i feel sorry for so many good pepole out there |
| beezerk |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 17:56:55
quote:
Originally posted by Drumbum
With all due respect Dan, i honestly can't see an hour or two of drum lessons per week paying the bills.
Contrary to popular belief there are jobs out there if your willing to work for mininum wage in mcdonalds or stacking shelves for instance.
Leave the house at 8.00am every day and ask anywhere and everywhere for a job. I bet that after 2 weeks tops you will have a job mate.
Good luck.
This.
Time to ditch the dream of drums paying your way and get a 9-5 or even night shift job. |
| thedrumcrew |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 17:55:30
quote:
Originally posted by Drumbum
With all due respect Dan, i honestly can't see an hour or two of drum lessons per week paying the bills.
Contrary to popular belief there are jobs out there if your willing to work for mininum wage in mcdonalds or stacking shelves for instance.
Leave the house at 8.00am every day and ask anywhere and everywhere for a job. I bet that after 2 weeks tops you will have a job mate.
Good luck.
Where do you live mate |
| mully |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 17:25:52
quote:
mully : I think Dan is late 30s/early 40's, but I could be wrong. That's unlikely, though, as I never am.
Dan : I'm 37 and 7 months old today!
See?
Stephen |
| Drumbum |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 17:12:44
With all due respect Dan, i honestly can't see an hour or two of drum lessons per week paying the bills.
Contrary to popular belief there are jobs out there if your willing to work for mininum wage in mcdonalds or stacking shelves for instance.
Leave the house at 8.00am every day and ask anywhere and everywhere for a job. I bet that after 2 weeks tops you will have a job mate.
Good luck. |
| swampy |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 16:57:51
I just gave a bike away through freecycle, I thought it mildly amusing that someone was getting a "free cycle" through freecycle.
Have you thought about doing voluntary community (schools, cub scouts, youth clubs etc) drum lessons to keep your ear in? depending on the amount of hours you did it wouldn't affect your benefits, would get you out of the house and meeting people and could very welll lead to paid lessons.
Just a thought |
| Prog |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 16:53:57
A bike could even be procured for nowt by asking on your local Freecycle/Freegle/Realcycle etc. group. |
| Captain Bubble |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 15:18:44
Happy Birthday Dan! I sincerely hope that things DO improve for you soon. You are talented and I am sure that if you keeping trying you will eventually start finding openings into this crazy old world. I seriously advise getting yourself a bicycle, so you do not have to rely on buses and trains which you cannot afford, you could even make a feature of it as a local visiting drum tutor. You have missed one opportunity because of transport cost, don't miss another!
I used my bike as my only regular transport when I was out of work and wanted to develop and produce a new invention; carrying stuff for my business on my bike I built up The World's Biggest and Best Timpani, Drum and Percussion Factory In The Whole Of South Bermondsey (Probably)! |
| Dan Jacobs |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 15:10:32
I'm 37 and 7 months old today!
I have written to 76 schools with week. I know my mind isn't 100%, but a large part of that is worry about bills etc, I'm sure that if i were offered a job, that in itself would perk me up and get me back on track.
Army = NO
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| mully |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 14:08:22
quote:
Originally posted by swampy
quote:
Originally posted by lee haydn
Dan, how old are you? Maybe it's worth considering enlisting in the Army/Navy/RAF, You would be taught skills to a really high degree, the kind of skills the private sector are falling over for, even as a driver you would get all the grades of a HGV license plus you can apply for all manner of courses once your'e in, the more you learn the more useful you are to the Army etc,, they also have bands with all the gear you need so thats a skill you can give Them, plus, it's not bad pay, and even if your'e skint, you'll still get four meals a day and a bed and there will be plenty of mates who are not in the habit of letting each other down,, it's only six years investment for your future well being plus anytime in the future if you "come undone" as an ex-soldier you will be entitled to all the back up services they have,,
... bear in mind that there is a distinct possibility of being sent to a warzone though
I've been to Felixstowe. I'd settle for a warzone.
Stephen |
| mully |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 14:02:32
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Originally posted by jamoca
quote:
Originally posted by mully
I think Dan's about 40-ish but I'm not too sure.
Stephen
He's not much older than me, IIRC! If so, I would assume early 30s.
I thought you were in your late fifties!
And I've met you...
No, I think Dan is late 30s/early 40's, but I could be wrong. That's unlikely, though, as I never am. Just ask my wife. "Even when he's wrong, he's feckin' right" is a commonly heard phrase in Castle Mully. (It's usually followed by ",the gobshyte").
Stephen
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| swampy |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 13:54:46
quote:
Originally posted by lee haydn
Dan, how old are you? Maybe it's worth considering enlisting in the Army/Navy/RAF, You would be taught skills to a really high degree, the kind of skills the private sector are falling over for, even as a driver you would get all the grades of a HGV license plus you can apply for all manner of courses once your'e in, the more you learn the more useful you are to the Army etc,, they also have bands with all the gear you need so thats a skill you can give Them, plus, it's not bad pay, and even if your'e skint, you'll still get four meals a day and a bed and there will be plenty of mates who are not in the habit of letting each other down,, it's only six years investment for your future well being plus anytime in the future if you "come undone" as an ex-soldier you will be entitled to all the back up services they have,,
... bear in mind that there is a distinct possibility of being sent to a warzone though |
| jamoca |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 13:54:16
quote:
Originally posted by mully
I think Dan's about 40-ish but I'm not too sure.
Stephen
He's not much older than me, IIRC! If so, I would assume early 30s. |
| mully |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 13:34:53
I think Dan's about 40-ish but I'm not too sure.
Stephen |
| lee haydn |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 12:48:17
Dan, how old are you? Maybe it's worth considering enlisting in the Army/Navy/RAF, You would be taught skills to a really high degree, the kind of skills the private sector are falling over for, even as a driver you would get all the grades of a HGV license plus you can apply for all manner of courses once your'e in, the more you learn the more useful you are to the Army etc,, they also have bands with all the gear you need so thats a skill you can give Them, plus, it's not bad pay, and even if your'e skint, you'll still get four meals a day and a bed and there will be plenty of mates who are not in the habit of letting each other down,, it's only six years investment for your future well being plus anytime in the future if you "come undone" as an ex-soldier you will be entitled to all the back up services they have,, |
| Yard |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 12:36:40
quote:
Originally posted by knockermalin
Dan, by hook or by crook you need to get (or borrow) a kit. At the moment you wouldn't even be able to take a paid gig or offer tuition other than traveling to a pupil's home. A drum teacher with no kit is like a driving instructor with no car! Like others have said, you may need to look outside you immediate vicinity for job (or drum based) opportunities.
Its the last thing that he needs I am afraid to say,trust me?
Dan needs to earn some money,meet new friends,have a good time and then when he is in a far better frame of mind take things slowly.
Kits and cars cost money which is what he is desperately short of?
In the right frame of mind you can take on the world..
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| mully |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 12:21:31
quote:
Originally posted by Yard
You will find that it pays to visit and enquire about jobs than sending applications.
Absolutely. Go into stores, cafes, bars, shops or whatever and ASK IN PERSON to see the manager or owner. If they're not available, make an appointment to see them. I lost count of the number of schools and music schools I went to when I was trying to get a teaching gig, but eventually one said ok, we'll give you a try.
quote:
You do have to get your head together first.
I agree 100%. Speak to your GP in the first instance. There's no shame in it, I happily admit I had to go for a few counselling sessions myself a couple of years ago when things were going a bit awry, and they really, really helped.
Stephen |
| knockermalin |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 12:06:49
Dan, by hook or by crook you need to get (or borrow) a kit. At the moment you wouldn't even be able to take a paid gig or offer tuition other than traveling to a pupil's home. A drum teacher with no kit is like a driving instructor with no car! Like others have said, you may need to look outside you immediate vicinity for job (or drum based) opportunities. |
| Dan Jacobs |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 11:53:23
quote:
Originally posted by Sharklaar
PM Sent chief
Nothing received Marc |
| Yard |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 11:37:24
Felixstowe is the end of the line of the A14.
Ipswich is a better locational bet.More bands,more clubs,pubs etc where there is a scene.
Felixstowe Docks employ many as it is the busiest container port in the UK. |
| WendyB |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 11:09:34
My e:mail address is cw dot brown at virginmedia dot com. I'll look out for the book. In the meantime, hope you get sorted out soon. get out of Felixstowe and start living instead of just existing. Good luck. |
| rollingthunder |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 11:00:19
quote:
Originally posted by Allegro
Back in the 80s recession I found it almost impossible to get a permanent job. The thing that helped me out of this was doing any temporary work I could get hold off. This then made it easier to get a permanent job, because potential employers could see that I was willing and able to work.
Thats exactly right. Plus if you are doing casual or temporary work you are out there coming into contact with people and some of these people may be in a position to offer you a better job. Firing off emails, writing letters and popping into jobcentres that dont have any jobs isnt enough these days. You need to get out and make things happen.
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| rollingthunder |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 10:45:59
How about getting into London for the Olympics Dan. Theres bound to be jobs going there, even if they are casual it could be a chance to get some cash together. When I arrived from the sticks I often took casual jobs to tide me over. An old friend of mine who was long term unemployed, recently did an electrical course and is now working his butt off. Hes not classed as a qualified electrician, but he works alongside them. Hes working a lot of hours and making loads of money.
I dont know Felixtowe, but it sounds like you are sitting in the desert complaining that theres no water. These days you need to go where the work is. Im 3000 miles from my home and family for that very reason.
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| Allegro |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 10:21:14
Back in the 80s recession I found it almost impossible to get a permanent job. The thing that helped me out of this was doing any temporary work I could get hold off. This then made it easier to get a permanent job, because potential employers could see that I was willing and able to work. |
| Yard |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 10:17:44
At least get into Ipswich for more work opportunities?A house share would be ideal as work opportunities come via friendships.
You will find that it pays to visit and enquire about jobs than sending applications.Employers want to see a desire to work.
You do have to get your head together first.If you are not confident and content then no one will want you to teach them if you are negative.
As has been stated many do not follow their dream jobs but that is reality.You have to admire those that grit their teeth and get on with it to support themselves as the alternative is grim.
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| RobLing |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 10:14:06
quote:
Originally posted by moosetication
You're in Felixstowe? Saints alive, Dan. Move! Move to somewhere where the numbers are more in your favour, somewhere with more than 14,000 households and 30-odd thousand residents, and with better public transport.
Time to reboot. And while you're at it, heed the advice given above. Get help.
I didn't want to be the first to say it... |
| sunshinehead |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 09:54:29
If you are not sure about seeking help a quick visit to a careers officer might be useful. There are courses and start up opportunities available but they don't come looking for you. Maybe a course or a bit of voluntary work with a view to something more long term would reintroduce a bit of positivity and put a spring in your step. As for owning a kit, I don't know how much you pay for broadband or whether you use an internet cafe or whatever but it might be worth looking for a starter kit on gumtree, I know it wont be Yamaha Absolute whatever but at the end of the day they're just tubs. Good luck. |
| moosetication |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 09:47:49
You're in Felixstowe? Saints alive, Dan. Move! Move to somewhere where the numbers are more in your favour, somewhere with more than 14,000 households and 30-odd thousand residents, and with better public transport.
Time to reboot. And while you're at it, heed the advice given above. Get help. |
| Sharklaar |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 09:46:41
PM Sent chief |
| logic_user99 |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 09:28:30
I can't add any more to the points other than to say "Dan. Listen to these people. Take it on the chin and get on with things!".
I really, genuinely hope that whatever situation you've found yourself in improves drastically in the near future, however, don't expect immediate anything. If you need help, ask for it. If you need advice, ask for it. Just keep going! |
| Dan Jacobs |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 09:24:50
Thanks for the comments.
I have been trying to forget about drumming for a long while now, and to be honest, I've been applying for so many jobs and at best all I get a rejection letter or email. I can't even get an interview for cleaning. I've written to all the major supermarkets asking about shelf filling, I'd love to do that as it would fill my time and I could sign off the dole and stop going to job club.
The reason drumming has come back is simply because I cannot seem to find work, so thought perhaps I should try and do something I'm good at and know very well - obviously having no kit or transport is a huge catch 22, I was hoping to teach locally as I have delivered 1,000 flyers offering drum tuition around Felixstowe but no enquiries from them yet.
For those who would like to read the novel - it's about 75% done - please let me have your email address, thanks.
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| mully |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 07:38:52
Indeed, I'd give it a look too.
Stephen |
| Sharklaar |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 07:17:41
Hey Dan, interested to read your novel  |
| scoobydude |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 05:06:23
I've got nothing really extra to add, but there are a lot of people that have replied that speak a lot of sense. What comes across is a lot of compassion and concern, which is pretty rare these days. It's quite nice to see that on a forum that's primarily about drumming there are people that are happy to give advice to someone they may never have met. Dan, even though it might not seem like it at the moment, the world really isn't against you and there are plenty that would love to see you doing well. |
| barrappboomching |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 01:57:08
Dan, you need to take the pressure off yourself and forget about drumming for a while! When I moved to the US, I had the attitude of "I am a drummer and that is all I am going to do, it was my career in the UK and it will be my career here!". I placed too much pressure on myself to make money from music that the quality of music suffered, I endured students with no interest in learning and became very depressed as my passion for the instrument and been overshadowed. By getting an non-drumming job, you will take so much pressure of yourself that many of your troubles will fade and when you navigate back to music, you will have such a different perspective that you will enjoy it once again! Believe me, I have been down this path.
I actually saw mention of a book "The Power of Now" on this forum and it really helped me a lot. I went back to school and am now in my final year training to be an x-ray technician. Is it my dream job? No...but it will provide me and my family with financial security to enjoy life without worrying about bills, eat mac'n'cheese for dinner etc. It will allow me to get back to playing creatively and if I am fortunate enough in the future it may well become my career once more but for the sake of a couple of years to get some direction, it was (is) worth taking the time out.
As for drumming, I am currently limited as to what I can accept because of study but when I just get to sit and play for no reason other than enjoyment, I ignite that spark that got me hooked many years ago. The last things on my mind when I play now is chops, crazy meter and technique. Now I play thinking about groove, tone, time and touch and try to make it sound like an instrument.
It is always darkest before dawn!
Good luck. |
| Adrian |
Posted - 19/04/2012 : 01:01:39
Stop being morose. If I was in need of lessons I would not want to be taught by you. Im sure your negativity would would not be an endearing attribute to an aspiring drummer full of hope and ambition. You HAVE to go to job club. These people are there to help you. I was 18 moths unemployed in the mid 80's and I got diddly squat help from professionals in helping get a job. We've all had hard times and you do have a my sympathy but stop feeling sorry for yourself. |
| mully |
Posted - 18/04/2012 : 23:38:30
You need more help than anyone here can offer, Dan. Yard has spoken the truth. Forget drumming. You need professional help to sort yourself out first. I've thought it for a long time, but never voiced it here. Go to your doctor, tell him your state of mind, and get referred on to a counsellor or psychiatrist or whatever the doc advises. Having a pop at Bulldog isn't rational. Talking about helping your brother to buy a kit when you are barely surviving and are completely skint isn't rational. Writing a feckin' novel when you have nowhere of your own to live isn't rational. Talking about taking on teaching work when you have no way of getting to it isn't rational. You've been offered tons of great advice here in the past and have taken none of it, you've actually thrown it back in people's faces more than once. You need to talk to a professional, Dan, and get your head straightened out. Go to your doctor in the morning. Under it all, you're a good guy, I reckon, but you're losing yourself. Get some help.
Take care
Stephen |
| WendyB |
Posted - 18/04/2012 : 23:11:16
(Warning, this post contains tough love reality checks. Those of a nervous disposition should leave via the green door.)
1 - decline the work, you can't get there so what's the point in pretending you are even vaguely interested? Its clearly neither practical nor possible, so don't do it. Alternatively, if your teaching is top notch, go by taxi and charge more to cover your costs!
2 and 5 - I don't know what sort of job you are looking for, or whereabouts in the country you are. If you are expecting to make a living from drumming, sorry but its just not working out, is it? To teach you need some space and equipment of your own, or transport if you are going to visit students, you simply can't do it by relying on public transport except maybe in London. Perhaps its time to move on, accept that your dream is, unfortunately, just that for the time being, and change direction. Can you not find some unskilled work, shelf filling, warehousing, fast food restaurants, anything to bring some money in? If not, and your accommodation is costing an arm and a leg, why not move your job-hunting efforts to another town and try there. I know that is hard and leaving friends and family is difficult, but you may find it worthwhile in the long run, and drumming will always be there, your dream is on hold not discarded.
3 - if your brother wants a drum kit, let him earn some money and buy his own!
4 - I used to do a lot of proof reading, so if after what I have said above, you'd like me to run through your novel, feel free to send it to me. I won't be judgmental or critical, but I may be able to help out.
Please try to get some help - Citizens' Advice, your doctor, even the jobcentre should information and contacts. I don't mean to upset you, and if I have, or anyone else on the forum, then please accept my apologies. The last thing we need is another slanging match. |
| Bulldog123 |
Posted - 18/04/2012 : 20:25:03
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Originally posted by Dan Jacobs
Honestly, They havn't contacted me at all. I have wasted hundreds of hours and hundreds of pounds, which i still owe my sister for, putting bands together for Bulldog.
I know i shouldn't say this on an open forum, but why not, i'm past caring, i have definitly been completely 'used' by them and they know it, everything i was told didn't happen, but no hard feelings i guess.
Dan, how could we of 'used' you when we didn't use anything you produced.
What did you what me to do? I can either politely let you know that the bands you produced are not suitable for us or I can send the videos to my clients and let you read their soul destroying replies.
Your current state of mind is not endearing to an employer so I to suggest you follow some of the advice above.
I really would like to help some Dolbearians reach their current goals and mindless comments like this are not going to help. |
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